Category: Musings

The myth of closure

Often, as a writer, I allow a story to drift off into the void, with no definitive conclusion, resolution, or insight. Life is like that much of the time, a smudge of situations overlapping one another in the same time and space, with no obvious dividing lines between anything, no endings – not unless I create them through various self-deceptions. But even then, the unfinished business of things continue to haunt me, well beyond the artificial endings I’ve given them.

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The inexplicable

“The greatest and most important problems of life are all fundamentally insoluble. They can never be solved but only outgrown.” ― C.G. Jung

I believe that Jung was on to something here, but I would replace “outgrown” with “acknowledged.” Most every situation in life – good and bad – lingers as an emotional footprint, continuing to impact us in both subtle and dramatic ways. Change does not erase nor reconstruct the past, but rather builds around it, like tree roots stretching over the remains of an old stone wall.

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Casual disappointment

Question: Why is casual sex so disappointing?

Answer: Because it is casual!

More often than not, the casual folks are disappointed when they don’t receive a stellar performance from their partner. There is no meaning beyond the performance, hence the emphasis on bedroom skills – a compensation for the lack of emotional intimacy.

Thus, if casual is your thing, then stock up on the Viagra, get in tip-top physical shape, and study a copy of “The Joy of Sex.” Is that still in print?

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