Discomfort has a way of dredging up the truth.
What really happened? Why did you run off with that guy? Do you still love me?
Ask such things while dodging bullets, or huddled together under newspapers to keep warm.
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“The greatest and most important problems of life are all fundamentally insoluble. They can never be solved but only outgrown.” ― C.G. Jung
I believe that Jung was on to something here, but I would replace “outgrown” with “acknowledged.” Most every situation in life – good and bad – lingers as an emotional footprint, continuing to impact us in both subtle and dramatic ways. Change does not erase nor reconstruct the past, but rather builds around it, like tree roots stretching over the remains of an old stone wall.
There is a thick line, not a fine line, between sensuality and obscenity. It is not something you trip over and land on the other side. It requires an agenda and substantial effort.
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Question: Why is casual sex so disappointing?
Answer: Because it is casual!
More often than not, the casual folks are disappointed when they don’t receive a stellar performance from their partner. There is no meaning beyond the performance, hence the emphasis on bedroom skills – a compensation for the lack of emotional intimacy.
Thus, if casual is your thing, then stock up on the Viagra, get in tip-top physical shape, and study a copy of “The Joy of Sex.” Is that still in print?
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We are engrossed by the illusion that we can actually possess or control anything, other than ourselves – and even that has limits.
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Notes from David 