“No one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility.”
~ Simone de Beauvoir
This is “sometimes” true, especially when a man makes virility the center of his male identity. His mission in life being the validation of his masculine worth and supremacy, defending himself against anyone who challenges or adds an air of doubt to this egocentric ideal: the proof and recognition of his manliness.
Rather than explore his underlying fear of emasculation, he scapegoats or blames others for it—sometimes with a vengeance. Unconsciously, he attracts or seeks those who poke at his fear—intentionally or otherwise—increasing his level of anxiety, anger, and aggression.
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Notes from David 